The baby, or the bathwater?

I'm part of a couple different "boards". These places are places where people stop, chat, and sometimes form some really deep friendships. The hard part is, though, that these places aren't perfect, because people aren't perfect. Not everyone always gets along with everyone else. Some people, eventually leave.

Sometimes, I find some of them back, sometimes I don't. These people have found something intolerable about enough people on the board that they choose to toss the whole group; throwing out the baby with the bathwater.

I'm always left to wonder... Am I the baby, or the bathwater??